Asheville Spirituality, Satsang, Meditation
(C) 2011 Howard McQueen
Friction in life is essential.
Stressing over one's various forms of friction brings suffering.
How we are in relationship with friction, i.e.
how we interpret friction places us in an adversarial or ally relationship with friction.
Do we use friction to navigate our experiences?
Do we use friction as an aid to centering ourselves inwardly?
Are we dedicated to uncovering the peace and harmony carried within friction?
Being human is an experience of recognizing our many boundaries and how we feel threatened.
There is a balanced and healthy way to care for our boundaries.
Care is needed to deconstruct defensive walls built by our ego.
Care is needed to sufficiently anchor us into the fabric of this world,
lest we retreat into depression and hiding, or prematurely slip into the gravity of boundary-less oneness.
We are a recycling work-in-process,
challenged with the frictions imposed by constant changes in our circumstances and environment.
We over-complicate and introduce confusion when we expect that reaching any particular destination (or goal) exempts us from the ongoing paramount need to evolve and adapt.
For almost always,
the most fundamental,
the most pivotal,
the most infrastructure - adaptations,
are how we form sustainable relationships with what we believe are our boundaries.
How we learn to constructively decipher the feedback contained within friction
allows us to remain
- vulnerable and not impregnable
- open and not shut-down
- vitally connected and not numb and withdrawn
The wisdom of building a relationship with "pain is a teacher" is heightened and rewarded
when we realize that friction is an ever-present stream of feedback,
enabling us to navigate and gain mastery in returning to our center.
As we rely upon and actualize this, we build a core confidence to trust in returning.
This innate elastic ability to return from being lost, confused, frightened and numb
brings forth a generosity and grace to open and share ourselves.
We begin to realize that life is a pilgrimage and we, its pilgrims.
We begin to learn to unclench our compressed ball of grief and sadness,
and see that under this is the anger and need to control and manipulate,
all in the name of reaction to the feedback contained within friction.
When we truly realize friction as a flow of information on "how to evolve",
we can choose to consciously realign,
begin dis-empowering old patterns of heightened opposition.
Ultimately, friction becomes a servant to an open-hearted
proactive intent to dissolve conflict,
fully disrobe and disarm
and live (and love) cohesively
in this dynamic, work-in-process unity,
i.e. community of humanity.