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Several quotes on the healing process of forgiveness, with author's names intact:

From a place of radical responsibility, the below quote on forgiveness is pretty illuminating:

"Forgiveness is really self-forgiveness. If the world is simply a reflection of your own mind, if all blame and judgement are projections of your own guilt and self-attack, then forgiveness of others releases both the others and the subconscious guilt within you. Guilt is really a form of arrogance which makes life all about oneself, rather than just learning the lesson, correcting the mistake and moving on. Forgiveness puts things in perspective and brings back innocence. It returns life to ease, flow and confidence. Forgiveness is not a form of winning the competition while another fails. Nor is it about condescension or superiority. It is not deigning to grant the other mercy - which is really superiority (hidden judgement and overcompensation for guilt and feelings of inadequacy) and competition (distraction from success and fear of the next step)."

- Chuck Spezzano


Got Forgiveness?

By Sheri Rosenthal
The key to forgiveness is to forgive from the heart not from the mind. Knowing in your rational mind that your parents did the best they could to raise you is not enough to constitute forgiveness. If you have any type of negative emotional reaction in the presence of someone, you have not truly forgiven that person. What would happen if you took 5 minutes to walk in the other person's shoes? Could you find compassion for them to understand why things happened the way they did?

Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to agree with what they did or how they did it. Not at all. Your values and beliefs may be very different from theirs. It simply means that you can see the whole truth of what happened and that the Truth encompasses all points of view, not just your own. True compassion of the human experience is that place from which all forgiveness begins. Compassion is an act of unconditional love that is free of any attachment.

Forgiveness is about seeing life with clarity so that you stop judging the activities of others and, instead, take responsibility for your interpretation of those activities. When you judge something that happens in life as good or bad, right or wrong you aren't able to have gratitude for the challenges and experiences life sends your way. No matter how enlightened a person you may be, challenging situations will always happen. However, if you have gratitude for life's challenges you will always find your joy in life and never feel victimized by your circumstances.

Once you have seen the truth you simply make the decision to let go of the pain, anger, and resentment you have been holding on to. If you are addicted to your pain, resentment, self-righteousness, this might be a challenging step for you. There is comfort in what we find familiar, even if we are suffering. However, once you let go, the weight of the world will be released from your shoulders.

In the forgiveness process, it is important to forgive not only the other people in our lives, but also ourselves. For most people, forgiving ourselves is more difficult then forgiving others. Here are a few things to check in with yourself to see if you could use some forgiveness on.

- Forgive yourself for using people in your life to hurt yourself.

- Forgive yourself for not having clarity, for blaming others, and for not taking responsibility for your actions.

- Forgive yourself for wounding others and for the anger, jealousy, and hate you've directed toward others.

- Forgive yourself for participating in situations that went against your integrity.

- Forgive yourself for not respecting yourself.

- Forgive yourself for not trusting yourself and having faith in your abilities.

- Forgive yourself for trying to control the people you love.

- And, of course, forgive yourself for not loving yourself 100% just the way you are!

If you forgive you will be truly happy, and your life will reflect the change back to you in every way. After all, what we think in our minds is what manifests in our lives! The bottom line is that we forgive not because the other person necessarily deserves it, but because we do not want to carry that load around until we die. Anger, hate, and jealousy will make you old, resentful and ugly, inside and out. The question is, how much do you love and respect yourself? Is it enough to give yourself the gift of forgiveness? I hope so. With All my love & blessings!

Sheri Rosenthal DPM is a master Toltec teacher and author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Toltec Wisdom. Having trained with don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements, she currently takes students on spiritual journeys, works with personal apprentices and enjoys being extremely happy. You can reach her at info@sherirosenthal.com or www.sherirosenthal.com & www.journeysofthespirit.com

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Comment by Howard McQueen on December 21, 2009 at 9:15pm
The sparkler is again lit, and I feel your warmth these hundreds of miles away. The coyote howls, the bears hug, and there is the spark of lightning flaring into a new constellation, pointing the way to celebrate love through forgiveness.

Beautiful of you to welcome Jay with such fine appreciation for his art. He received his Masters of Fine Arts in the USA. I met his mom before she died. She battled severe, crippling arthritis and was a wisp of a physical form when I stayed with her and Jay at her house/ashram on Singer's Island. When she was a very young woman, she missed a weekly train and decided to hitch-hike by herself across IRAN. She (Ellie I believe was her name) was also involved in world peace movements way back then. Quite an amazing lady!

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